20个变得快乐的习惯
I think of myself as the happiest person when ever walk into a room, and most people notice my smile right away. Here are 20 ways you can find yourself as happy as l am.
当我进门的那一刻，我总把自己想象成为世界上最开心的人，这样做后我发现屋里的人们能即刻注意到我挂在脸上的微笑。试试下面的20种方法吧，说不定也能让你和我一样开心。
1.Let it go
走自己的路，让别人说去吧!
When someone criticizes you or says something not so-nice, just forget it. Worse things have been uttered in human history. Even when you know the person meant it,remember that you become stronger by accepting them for who they are and knowing your capabilities.
倘若有人批评你或者说了些不太善意的话，那么随他去吧，人类历史上可发生过比这更严重的事情。即便他们是刻意得对你进行言语攻击，你的内心也变的更强大了，因为你能接受这些人真实的样子并且洞悉了自己的能力。
2. Be kind
善意待人
People who are mean and feel the need to put others down are insecure with themselves. But when you are kind to others, kindness returns to you.
有意贬低别人的刻薄小人对自己往往缺乏安全感。如果你用善意待人，他人也会以此回报。
3.Think of your problem as challenges
把你的困难视作挑战
When you come up against a difficulty, whether a person or an event, consider what your future self will have learned from it.l believe it was Kanye West, or maybe Nietszche,who said,"What doesn't kill me makes me stronger."
当你面临困境，不管这此困境是源于人或事，想象一下未来的你将会从中受益。我记得坎耶·维斯特还是尼采曾经说过:“没使我灭亡的事物反而让我变得更强大。
4.Express gratitude
表达谢意
When you let people know that you appreciate them,they are more willing to help you in the future. Saying thank you is more than good manners-it's karma.
当你向帮助你的人表达谢意时，他们会更加乐意再次向你伸出援助之手。说句感谢不仅仅是良好的礼仪，更是佛教所说的因缘(业力)。
5.Dream big
大胆做梦
The happiest person has reached the highest level of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs-self-actualization. lf you want to be happy you must work hard to achieve something, and strive to attain that life goal.
最开心的那些人往往达到了马斯洛的需求层次理论的最高层次--自我实现。如果你想变得开心就得努力工作做成些事情，这样才能实现人生目标。
6.Speak well of others
称赞别人
The Buddhist notion of "right thought, right action is an important one. lt's in the mind that negativity starts. By clearing your head of negative ideas of others, you will clear your mind of problems, worries and fears, and you won't be tempted to gossip or speak ill and bring that negativity back to you.
佛教有句话很有份量:“正确的思想指引正确的行为。”消极颓唐始于心。在你的心灵殿堂里抹去对他人的负面想法吧，这样做你也能清除内心垃圾:你的问题，烦恼和恐惧，从而不再轻易说长道短，让负面情绪占据你的心灵。
7.Be in the now
活在当下
Yes, you have to do your laundry and clean the bathroom when you get home, but while you're here now eating this cheese burger, just enjoy the cheeseburger. Then apply this lesson to all other moments of pleasure and work-you can deal with the little stuff later.
没错，当你回到家中，你不得不洗衣服，打扫浴室，但如果现在的你正在吃芝士汉堡，那就好好享用吧。这样的心态同样适用于娱乐和工作--你可以晚点再处理一些琐事。
8.Do not pare yourself to others
不要和他人比较
As soon as you start this, you fall into a trap of of ego,a grasping at the temporal, fleeting aspects of reality.Instead, think about what you have that makes you happy, or at least satisfied.
一旦你开始和他人比较，你就陷于自我的泥潭，越是想抓住暂存的事物，真实越是转瞬消逝。与此相反，你应该经常想想你所拥有的让你快乐的事物，或者至少是能让你满意的事物。
9.Realize you don't need others' approval
记得你不需要他人的认可
As long as you do what makes you happy, you don't need other people to condone your actions. This will free you to act on what you believe, which will instill confidence into your every act.
只要你做的事能让你开心，你就不需要别人指点你的行为。这样的心态能让你自由得做自己喜欢的事情，并让你举手投足间充满自信。
10.Be honest
诚实待人
Lies, even little ones, imply that you are willing to belied to in return. But when you keep your conversation honest, you will maintain a higher level of integrity in your world.
倘若你撒谎，即便是再小的谎言，都暗示着你也愿意别人以谎言回敬你。但若你言语诚实，你就能在你的世界里保有浩然正气。
11.Take time to listen
花时间倾听
The happiest person doesn' t interrupt because she knows that if she wants to be heard, she has to listen to others. By listening instead of waiting to speak, you can understand what motivates others, which can help you build rapport with them and understand yourself.
那些最快乐的人不会去打断别人说话，因为他知道如果想被别人倾听，他要首先倾听别人。通过倾听，而不是等着自己发言，你会了解是什么激励了他人，这样做有利于你和别人建立融洽的关系，也能让你更加了解自己，
12.Accept what can't be changed
接受不能改变的事实
Sure, wish l was taller, smarter, and better looking.But l'm not.As soon as l realized that l wasn't going to be President of the U.S.A., l figured out what l did want to do with my life: write.
我当然希望自己更高，更聪明，更漂亮。但这不是事实。在当我意识到我不能成为美国总统时，我琢磨到我这辈子要干什么:写作。
13.Read daily selections from a book of wisdom
每天读一节充满睿智的书籍中的选段
Magazines and newspapers are all well and good, but the reason people throughout history have dedicated their lives to religion and philosophy is because of the wisdom these sacred texts hold. lt doesn't matter if it's a Bible, Torah or Quran verse, reading these books of wisdom will remind you of what came before and what will come after you.
杂志和报纸固然很好，但是人类历史上有无数人却把一生献给宗教和哲学，那是因为这些神圣文本中所持有的智慧。无论是圣经，摩西五经，还是古兰经，读这些睿智的书籍能让你了解生前生后事。
14.Travel at least two weeks of the year
每年至少花两周时间在旅行上
It's even better if it's foreign travel. Alas, getting out of the country can be expensive. When you go somewhere different, to remind yourself of how people live in places other than those that you're used to, you will be happy to return to what you have people live in places other than those that you're used to, you will be happy to return to what you have when it's time.
如果是出国旅游那就更好了。哎，出国旅游的确花费不菲。但如果你去一个不同的地方，见到那里的人的别样生活，当时间到了你就会很乐意得回到你生活的地方。
15.catch yourself before negativity starts
在负面思想侵蚀之前掐断它
Yeah, it's easy to read the above points and say,okay, l get it. But the hardest part of being happy is realizing when negativity starts to creep into your mind and from there, getting rid of it.
这句话读起来很简单，说:我明白了。但是想要开心，最难的一点就是觉察到消极思想是何时开始爬进你的心门的。当你找到了，就赶紧掐断它。
16.Dress well
好好穿着
You're only as good as you feel, and you can only feel good if you look good. Personal hygiene,grooming, and fashion enter into this. Rarely will you find someone well-dressed crying by themselves.
你只是和你的感觉一样好，并且只有当你看起来不错你才能感觉不错。个人卫生，梳洗，时尚都能为你加分。你很难看见衣着讲究的人独自哭泣吧。
17.Enjoy sadness
享受悲伤
John Keats said that in the "temple of delight melancholy has her sovran shrine." In other words,at the heart of every joy is a glimmer of sadness waiting to shine through. The same goes for sadness within every pain is a reversal of fortune that will lead you to feel happy again. So when those moments come, enjoy them. They won't last long.
约翰济慈说过:“在快乐居住的殿堂里面，隐匿的忧郁有一至尊的偶像。”换句话说，每一份快乐的灯火里都有一丝悲伤发出微光，它等待着被强光照耀穿透。对于悲伤来说也是一样的--在每一份痛苦里都隐藏着命运的逆转--让你重拾喜悦。当悲伤的那些时刻到来，享受它们。它们不会持续太久.
18.Eat well
吃好喝好
You are what you eat, so if you're stuffing yourself with cheese burgers and hot dogs every day, chances are you are overweight and you lack energy and mental clarity.Instead, make sure to eat enough fruit and vegetables, protein and carbohydrates-and indulge in moderation.
人如其食((西方谚语，指饮食可反映一个人性格与生活环境)。因此如果你每天都用起司汉堡和热狗填饱肚子，你很有可能体重超标，缺乏能量，头脑不清。相反得，你一定要摄入足够的蔬果，蛋白质和碳水化合物--有节制得尽情享受你的食物。
19.Keep in touch with your friends and family
与你的亲友保持联系
Your family-in most cases-loves you unconditionally. lt's important to keep in touch with them, whether it's a weekly phone call or an annual visit. Friends too help to inspire and support happy people. Take time out of your week to communicate with them.
你的家人，在大多数情况下，都是无条件爱你的。和他们保持联系是很重要的，无论是一周一次的电话还是每年一次的拜访。朋友们也能激励支持那些开心的人们。每周抽些时间和他们交流吧。
20.Be alone
享受独处
The happiest person is comfortable spending time by himself. That's because he loves himself,A lot. He is just as comfortable spending an entire day alone as he is spending it with someone else. You should be too.
最开心的那些人独处时常能感到舒适。那是因为他们爱自己。并且非常爱。他们独处能感受到的愉悦正如和别人待在一起一样。你也该如此。
